Infidelity hurts!!!!!

Have you ever been cheated on? You know it hurts right. Sometimes I wonder why people actually cheat. If you feel that you don’t want to be committed then why enter a relationship where you are expected to be just this "committed". People who cheat are wasting the other person’s time and as well as their own trying to make something work that they clearly don’t want to be in. You spend hours trying to plan your next lie instead of just letting your partner know that you aren’t interested in them anymore. I see people that cheat as simply being greedy, they don’t want to let go of the person they are cheating on yet they are happy to sleep with 3 or 4 different people.

When they are caught red handed they act like they are the sorriest people in the world. The most common explanation is that "it just happened". Nothing just happens it is a well thought out plan that was executed in a manner that intended to hurt the other person.

However, we cannot just blame the cheater we have to take into account the person they are cheating on you with. These people are at times aware that the person is taken and they still wish to partake in helping them deceive the other person. For them they see that the person isn’t cheating on them so why should it be their problem. But it kind of is your problem too, you are telling this person that it is okay to cheat on their partner. If he/she ever leaves their partner for you, it is a sure fact that they will cheat on you too. Don’t be gullible if they say tell you that they have changed, because they probably used the same lines on their previous partner.

Despite the emotional ramifications that occur when you find out that your partner has been unfaithful there is also the physical pain that you endure. They may have infected you with a sexual disease that might be difficult to cure. But when partners are cheating without protection, 9 times out of 10 the last thing on their mind is infecting someone. Achieving their goal is the main aim, not catching a disease.

If you think that your partner is cheating on you, it is best to confront them now. The more you leave it, the harder it will be for you to leave that relationship. You start to assume that you can’t find someone to love the way you loved this person. But please wake up and smell the coffee, they didn't love you or even respect you. There are a number of single people out there waiting to be fished. You was fine before you met him and I'm sure you will be even better without him.

However, if you are the cheater then I advise you to think carefully about what you are doing. If you don’t want to be in a relationship then leave. Stop living a lie and pretending that you are the caring and loving partner. If you want various partners then let your mate know. There is no point in making your life or their life harder than it already is once they find out about your infidelity.


Elle, Writer and Editor