There comes a point in a woman’s life when a buddy is required to fulfill different types of needs. These needs might be of companionship for those lonely nights. As 21st century women we are trying to juggle work, family and friends, whilst also trying to have a decent social life. So sometimes a full time boyfriend doesn’t fit into our hectic lives, this is why we opt for the simple answer of obtaining a F*** buddy to fulfill the desires that have been locked up. However, there are some rules that you have to stick to before finding yourself one of these.
Firstly, try to find one that you are sure has no intense feelings towards you because this means the guy’s interior motives will be to make you he's girl. Even though you know that is not what you have in mind at that particular moment. The same goes for you, do not try to turn a F*** buddy into your future boyfriend. Before you entered and signed the contract you both knew full well what you were getting yourself into, so bringing emotions into this legally binding contract might not be suitable for both candidates. We all know that us females are emotional beings, so before entering this contract be sure to know that you don’t want anything more than what has been agreed upon.
Secondly, if you ran into your buddy in public with another female, do not in any way ask him who the girl is. He will start to sense some kind of jealousy or even worse that you are forming some kind of attachment to him. Furthermore, do not assume that you are the only person that he's sleeping with. You could be one of many, so don’t be surprised if this happens to slip out.
Firstly, try to find one that you are sure has no intense feelings towards you because this means the guy’s interior motives will be to make you he's girl. Even though you know that is not what you have in mind at that particular moment. The same goes for you, do not try to turn a F*** buddy into your future boyfriend. Before you entered and signed the contract you both knew full well what you were getting yourself into, so bringing emotions into this legally binding contract might not be suitable for both candidates. We all know that us females are emotional beings, so before entering this contract be sure to know that you don’t want anything more than what has been agreed upon.
Secondly, if you ran into your buddy in public with another female, do not in any way ask him who the girl is. He will start to sense some kind of jealousy or even worse that you are forming some kind of attachment to him. Furthermore, do not assume that you are the only person that he's sleeping with. You could be one of many, so don’t be surprised if this happens to slip out.
Thirdly, a f*** buddy does exactly what it say's on the tin. So don’t expect anything more or less from him. He is not there to facilitate as a boyfriend. He will not take you out and buy you lovely things. If he also forgets your birthday that’s okay its not he's job to remember.
If you feel that you can adhere to these rules then by all means go and get yourself a buddy. But if you are looking for sustainability and durability then I advise you wait for that special someone. Do not enter into a contract that you cannot fulfill, remember this is a contract that you cannot amend unless both parties agree upon these new changes.
Elle, Writer and Editor
4 comments:
i read yr f*** buddies with interest.good idea if it is well thought over and discreet but why not ? one for the ladies !
from a mans point of view i know it works.no time or enough space to say why.
good luck
Glad u liked it. I think it can work for both but I do think us women get caught up with our emotions.
hello elle
your response to my comments 10 april.
dont get emotional with a f*** buddie,women should enjoy to the max without having to have a reason !
Hey Baby Girl!! Loved your 'Fuck Buddy'column. Carrie Bradshaw has nothing on you! Remember me when your best seller hits the shelves!
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